Post edited 5:58 pm – September 3, 2012 by Maurice

When I first became excited about it over two years ago, I told friends and family my intentions of going over seas to find a wife. Then I would debate with them over it, reciting the information from EDC (here) and Winston Wu's site, then they would come at me with all of the stuff they get from Jerry Springer, Dr. Phil, the media, and the rest. But ever since February 2012, I've grown tired of the debates and there has been no dialogue over it since January – Good, I can go on as planned.

Due to a special project I am undertaking right now, any negative thoughts or talk affect how well I am doing, so any further discussions will be on-hold until I take a little vacation to see Eastern Europe later this year (Sponsored by a company called Dream Connections), where I will be sending back nice photos and video of the wonderful women I am running into over in Ukraine; posting them on my Family Facebook page ( Facebook.com/Rod Young), where almost all of the people I grew-up with are connected with me; at least 60% of them are there.  If you have a serious business, it is best to have two Facebook page entries, even though it is against their rules; Family can talk about stuff you don't want clients, colleagues, and associates to know) at least that is how I feel.

They will accept her, trust me I know my family. They are easily persuaded by media and hype, but when someone brings a nice girl around, they instinctively can tell. Especially the elders who will let everyone else know that, "Wow, she's such a very nice girl, and she's so polite and mannerly," unquote.

Maurice R. Young

Maurice, GodNnelg, with all respect and brotherly love, I have to disagree with both of you on this one.  The question asked at the beginning of this topic was how to overcome  the negativity.  What you guys are responding with are examples of being defeated by it.  I know it isn't easy fighting ignorance, but it's quite possibly the most important fight there is.  If friends or family are citing Jerry Springer as sources, then brother, you already have them on the ropes.  Turn it right back around on them. "You're getting your information from Jerry Springer?  Do you really think that's the most reliable source?"  I can't imagine anybody coming back from that complete loss of credibility, especially if you're in a group setting.  I know I'd feel too stupid to say another word.  I'd be willing to bet they'll be looking for more information online within 24 hours.  If you got through to them, they'll be looking for education, and if not, they'll be looking for ammo to use against you.  Either one is a victory, because if they come back with more craziness, you shoot it down with facts, and they'll be back online again, looking for education or ammo.  Repeat as necessary.  Only education can banish ignorance.

I have to say right up front, and I've told Mark the same thing, that I've had nothing but support and positive reactions from everybody I've told about my quest, and believe me, I've told a lot of people.  I even turned it into an experiment.  I put my Russian language book on my desk at work, and every time I was asked if I was learning Russian, I said yes, and told them why.  People don't hide what they aren't ashamed of.  If this is your path, and you know you're right, tell people.  If you're hiding it, people will always assume that you don't really believe either, and try to save you from yourself.

I know this is a pretty long post, and I apologize for that, and for preaching, but I do want to add just one more thing.  I have one sister, and she is 12 years younger than me.  We are extremely close, and she was the first person I told about my quest.  She didn't question whether my choice was right, but she did ask me why.  I asked her these 2 questions, and she's championed my quest like a tiger ever since:

1. How many women do you know? (She works in a beauty salon, so obviously, a lot.)

2. Out of all of those, how many can you think of that you would be happy to see me marry?

(She couldn't think of one.)

Again guys, sorry for the long post, but if it can help even one of you, it's worth it.

Post edited 12:49 am – September 5, 2012 by Maurice

Generally, my answer to the question is – don't even fight over it. I make my own decisions and I do not need anyone's approval or opinions for any of the decisions I have: researched, tested, or have sought knowledgeable and/or wise council over. I have always been an independent thinker and do'er, and part of that is to stand-by what I believe in. If anyone does not agree with you, shake the dust from your soles and keep heading for your destiny; life is too short for petty arguments.

Who you spend the rest of your life with is your decision, because you will have to live with that person – not them. Unless you want them to make the choice for you.

 This is a life-changing decision and I have already told them my intentions. It is already on the table - Life goes on, because I will keep going-on.

Post edited 3:50 pm – January 26, 2013 by KevinC

All the guys have presented excellent comments in their posts here! In regard to defending against negative or derogatory remarks against you,here is what I always told my son when he was a teenager and wanted to "bust somebody in the mouth" when he learned that someone had said something derogatory about him. "It matters not what others think or say about you(it is unreasonable to believe that every person you meet in life will like you or agree with all of your opinions),the only thing that truly matters in life is WHAT YOU KNOW TO BE THE TRUTH ABOUT YOURSELF".  And it is a given that God will also know this(the truth about yourself).

And how do you handle the "negative media"? You get on a plane,fly to Ukraine and experience and discover for yourself that all the propaganda they(the neg. media) are disseminating is 99.999% B#llsh*t!   The experience itself will be one of the greatest memories created in your lifetime and if you come away with an amazing,beautiful,charming woman to share your life with . . . . HOW DOES IT GET ANY BETTER THAN THAT?